Slangwhanger: A loud abusive speaker or obnoxious writer

I like to think of myself as a bit of a writer. 

Crazy as it may seem writing is an extension of myself and my personality. You'll be happy to know that though I say what's on my mind most of the time, I refuse to be an angry blogger.

Now you may be shocked we just went there. You may think after reading some of my nutty blogs it's impossible for me to be an angry blogger ....not so.

Here's why....

First you have to understand that yes there are things the anger me though it's rare. I have even sat down and begin to write concerning that thing that angered me. But notice I never post the blog. In a few days or a week I may go back and read it and then I hit the delete button and smile. Why? Because even though I was legitimately upset, when I look at the big picture.....were my words going to do more harm than good?

Let me give you an example. Say one day someone close to me tramples on my feelings. I'm talking about someone who is truly a friend. Don't you think they already feel guilty if they truly love me? I know they do. So how is my rubbing their face in their mistake going to help? How is my lack of forgiveness going to heal the rift between us? How is it going to make anyone feel better including myself? 

It's not.

Try not to put things out there that you are going to regret. That you will need to ask for forgiveness for.

Now I want it understood that I am in no way saying that no matter what happens to us we have to keep it inside and just live with it. No no no. There are often times things that we need to discuss and get it out in the open. What I'm saying is take a minute or a day to calm down and get yourself together. Take a moment to think about it from the other person's point of view. Sometimes they were dead wrong. Sometimes you were both right you just couldn't see the other persons point of view through your anger.

You are armed with two powerful weapons (note my pun...lol) , so take your two arms and wrap them around the one that loves you but hurt you and try saying I forgive you. Forgiveness doesn't mean a willingness to accept a lifetime of being wronged it means accepting a lifetime of being free from the bondage of anger.